The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. Instead of diminishing it, it multiplies it...Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that.

- Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

The golden rule - to “do to others what you want them to do to you” - is at the heart of what we are taught from a very young age. It’s been amended with increased clarity by political leaders. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. above and more recently First Lady Michelle Obama in declaring that “when they go low, we go high.”

At the heart of coaching is building an understanding that we are responsible for how we act or show up in any situation. That responsibility belongs only to us. It is the “do to others” regardless of what they do to you.

When we operate in a manner that is below the standard we’d like to hold for ourselves because someone pushed us there, we have willingly given up our power. Authority comes from active choice. Each time we step aside and allow others to dictate our behavior, we let others chose on our behalf and we lose our authority.

Coaching is a container to set an intention on how we want to lead, behave and take action. The more we invest in that foundation, the less likely we are to deviate from our own inner compass.

Don’t give away your choice.

Determine how you want to show up, regardless of others, and do that as often as possible.