Synchronicity was coined by Carl Jung to apply meaning to random, meaningful coincidences. I see these as a way for the universe to drop gentle and repeated reminders of places to focus and extract learning.
I’ve stumbled on this Cherokee Philosophy twice over the last week - once in a fiction book of stories and the second on the wall of a bathroom near Joshua Tree National Park.
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life.
“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.
One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride and ego.
The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.
The same fight is going on inside of you - and inside of every other person too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “which one will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “the one you feed.”
One of the key things clients and I work on in sessions is raising consciousness of our inner critical voices. The "shoulds" that follow us around like heavy weights. I find that clients are often resistant to invite awareness to these negative voices. This hesitancy is often rooted in fear of its impact, most specifically on what it means about the definition of the individual being defined. If we see that we have doubt, we will be overridden by it. If we understand that fear exists, we will succumb to it, always. We ignore those voices to avoid becoming those voices.
What I know from bringing those voices to the dialog is that more frequently the opposite occurs. In practice, seeing the presence of our inner critic allows us to make a choice about whether we let those voices lead. It allows us to acknowledge their existence while simultaneously choosing to focus elsewhere.
That Cherokee teaching represents the same idea - the wolf that represents evil is never going to go away - but we as people get to choose which wolf to feed. There is power in choosing good. Coaching highlights both options and enables clients to stand in the power of choice.
What do you want to chose today?